How to get past a secret relationship...?

Damaris Weiler: They're his family, so that means it's his problem to deal with. It should not fall to you to defend.Most people do not like confrontation, so your guy needs to quit using that as an excuse. He needs to tell them that he understands the two of you had issues before, that you've worked through those and that you are both very happy now, and while he doesn't need for them to agree, he does need them to support his choices.I would make sure your guy knows what was said to you at the time, so he understands where they were coming from. Most "reasonable" parents and family members simply want what's best for their kid, and for whatever reason, didn't see you in a positive light. If he knows what their concerns were, he can address them and let them know they are non-issues now.If they won't do that, if I were he, I would have little to do with them.Sounds to me from your ad-on that they seem rather selfish, manipulative and self-serving. If your guy does n! ot put his relationship in check with them, letting them know what is and what is not appropriate, you can expect to be playing these games the rest of your life.Assuming you're both in your 20's now, why on Earth would you want a relationship that felt so "high school".Get your guy in gear, or get a new guy....Show more

Delphine Cajka: that happened to my parents. don't worry. it'll work out in the end. good luck.

Hal Palowoda: As bad as it sounds he has to face them .They can`t dictate his life even if you and him don't make it they will try this with every girl he ever gets with he needs to take control of this problem cus it wont get any better

Efren Clankscales: If he can't be man enough to tell his family and stick up for you then you deserve better, in my opinion.

Buster Exline: Some people think secret relationships are cause he may be going behind your back with someone else, etc. But this isn't the case. Everyone knows we're together, at ! his job, friends, it's just his family that does not know. Mi! ne does. We always talk about moving in together but it never happens and I think it's cause we haven't faced this problem yet. I ask him what he's afraid she'll do to him and he says "I'm not sure." He's truly afraid of his mom and grandma. He's a grown man and they make him feel so awful it makes him cry, yet he loves them still and wants their acceptance of him in what he does. One time he was in another town for the weekend, and they were mad that he wasn't visiting them instead and screamed at him on the phone. I could hear it just from sitting near him. They scare him, but we need to do this. But how??? I love him and am patient....Show more